The Art of Complimenting

 

 

I am a strong believer in karma – what you put out into the world comes back to you in some shape or form. Do onto others and all that jazz.

We as a society have adopted this sense of entitlement from the world and the other souls that inhabit it with us. We’re always expecting, always demanding and always being disappointed when it doesn’t go as planned.

I’m the first to admit that cynicism runs through my veins. Nonetheless so does the understanding that you have to work hard for things.Thats why I feel people have forgotten how to compliment.

They complain that no one ever tells then they look nice, yet how many times have you done that to someone.

When was the last time you saw someone truly rocking an outfit and kept the thought to yourself? Who were you benefitting by keeping that pearl to yourself?

PSA: We have lost the art of complimenting!

Have no fear! There are a few skills you can adopt to become better at complimenting.

  • Be consistent.

The only way to get better at something is to be consistent. Just like when you frequent a coffee shop regularly enough that they start to remember your name and your order. Compliment people regularly and it will become a habit. That way you will…

  • Be direct

Life is way too short to be beating around the bush. When you offer a compliment to someone be direct. Address them not the inanimate object. Their smile, their personality, the coat that they’re wearing. Specificity is key.

Lastly,

  • Don’t be a ‘Shady McGrady’

When you’re offering a compliment or performing a kind gesture, do it without expectation. Whatever happened to random acts of kindness? Or doing something just to make the other person smile?

Cliché? Yes, but that doesn’t make it any less true and hey, not everyone has a reason to smile everyday. How cool is it to be that reason?

I don’t know, I’m just thinking out loud. Maybe you think what I’m saying is complete bullshit. That’s alright.

That being said a little positivity never killed anybody, right?

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Until next time,

Jenn xo

 

 

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